Today was an absolutely gorgeous day in NJ. It was a bright clear sky with the sun shining even brighter against it's blue back drop. BUT, It all came to a screeching halt in a matter of 300 seconds. That's it, that's all it took to ruin an other wise perfect day- 5 whole minutes for an irate person to scream at me over the most insignificant thing in the world- A Parking Spot!
I of course entered defense mode instantly and fired back. Although I was glad that I defended myself, that nasty feeling stayed with me for a long while. The idiot went along his day without a care in the world while I sat at my cubicle feeling like crap. The Fight or Flight instinct was so strong and it left me with a pit in my stomach and I couldn't shake it- not at least until I decided to make a conscious effort to release that negative energy (easier said than done).
I sat in my chair surrounded by all the office lights, phones ringing, and people talking, trying to keep still and quiet my mind. I took a deep breath holding it in for a bit and slowly releasing all the negative force that threatened to stay with me. I took another breath, slightly closing my eyes and imagining everything dark and quiet. Well it was a start at least- it would take me a few more "quick meditation" sessions today to let the ugly feelings go but eventually they did.
I really think that meditation is something I have to practice everyday- It seems that more and more I need to take "deep breaths" in order to deal with people these days. Is it me???
I would suggest to anyone that is thinking of meditation for beginners to look into a class or a group course under the guidance of an experienced teacher . I would also tell you to be patient with yourself- it's harder than it looks so don't get discouraged. Lastly, continuity is probably more important than anything else; 5-10 minutes everyday is better than a 1/2 an hour once a week. Before you know it, meditation will become as essential as that morning cup of coffee.
BEFORE YOU BEGIN:
-Find a quiet place.
-Make sure you are not too tired, early morning is generally said to be the best time.
-Sit comfortably; most people like a cushion under their behind.
-The room is best not too warm or cold.
-Wear loose clothing.
YOUR BODY:
-Keep the back straight,whether you sit on your but or on a chair, this is very important.
-Try to be comfortable and physically relaxed, and avoid moving too much.
-Keep your head straight, slightly bent forward.
-Keep your eyes have open but if you prefer to close them that's fine for now.
-Try breathing through your belly; not breathing with the chest.
YOUR MIND:
- Be relaxed but at the same time awake and attentive: I Find this to be very hard!
- Be aware of your own mind and thoughts.
MEDITATION:
-Give yourself a set time for meditation and try to stick to it- whether it's 10 minutes or 1/2 hour.
-Be consistent
I hope meditation brings you as much peace and joy that it has brought me, especially for the quick sessions I need at my office, I mean cubicle.
Remember:
MEDITATION- IT'S BETTER THAN SITTING AROUND DOING NOTHING!
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